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自信培训

Being assertive is a means of putting your point or opinion across while maintaining respect for another's point of view.

The aim is to ideally achieve a solution that meets your needs and those of another - a healthy compromise.

对象应该是所有各方都留下这种情况而不会感到不安，或不安。

需要感情和想要

您有权表达您的需求，感受和想要（与他人一样）。

The techniques can be applied to many situations whether in the workplace, at home or other everyday scenarios.

我们已经提到了如何在压力时触发“战斗或飞行”的响应。

战斗飞行

我们已经讨论了“飞行”是如何逃避问题或事件的现代相当于 - 这可以被视为“被动”的行为，而“战斗”攻击的响应可以被视为“侵略性”行为。

自信地在这两个州之间迈出了。

Passive Behaviour

被动行为通常包括向他人的愿望投降，即使它是针对您自己的需求或需求，这通常包括抑制这些感受和需求。

被动行为通常意味着其他人必须猜测这些需要的东西 - 这通常是错误的。

Someone who is overly passive often does not want to upset people, are often unnoticed and rarely get what they want.

Aggressive Behaviour

People exhibiting aggressive behaviour goes to the opposite extreme and will often try to get what they want in any way that works including threatening, cajoling, manipulating, using sarcasm or violence.

In many ways, this is the bully.

他们没有任何尊重他人，也没有考虑他们的需求，因此这通常会导致他人的不良情绪。

Compromise

通常是侵略性的人不会寻找可以达到妥协的情况。

A person who uses assertive behaviour will state their needs in a direct and honest way while respecting the needs of others.

他们会充满信心地说话，没有过度的焦虑。
They will consider their words before speaking.
They will be positive, secure, co-operative and respectful, and will actively seek a solution that meets the needs of all parties if possible.
To simplify they will discuss, argue and negotiate.

三个州

You may notice that people exhibit certain characteristics with each of the three states.

这在谈判或讨论正在进行的情况下最常观察到。

自信的人经常有一个凸起的声音，文件夹武器，并且可能会指向他们的手指很多。

他们可以使用的短语包括：

“you'd better"
“如果你不......“
“should..."
“愚蠢的”
或其他侮辱。

被动人物可能有一个抱怨的声音，握紧或拧干，握手，可以弯曲，并且经常使他们的眼睛向下倾斜。

他们经常使用诸如：

“可能是..”
“I wonder.."
“sorry... sorry"
“excuse me..."
“我希望你不介意......”。

The assertive person will be calm, controlled and relaxed.

They will look others directly in the eye and uses phrases such a:

“I feel.."
“I want.."
“How can we resolve this?
And "what do you think?"

Assertiveness can be summarised as:

Valuing yourself and others equally
Having the ability to say 'yes' or 'no' to anyone when you choose, without always having to offer a reason.
Standing up for yourself and not be afraid to do so.
为自己的需求，感受和想要负责，并确保你让他们见面。
Expressing your needs, feelings and wants while being respectfully, openly, clearly and honestly.
Not being afraid to admit to your mistakes and ensuring that you learn from them.
Not being afraid to ask for help when you need it.
Ability to handle conflict when it arises, being prepared to confront difficult people when necessary.

自信训练解决这些点中的每一个，提供技术和方法，以鼓励自信行为。

应用这些技术可以通过我们如何与他人互动的方式来减少我们的压力，特别是在您期待大量压力的事件中。

本文由Martine H McFarlane贡献